Would you rather...

Qn: Would you rather your wife die first or you to die first?
Ah, this qn would be more applicable to guys and though it's kinda weird to face such a qn in a normal day, it brings pretty interesting answers. You can also know how the person is like from his answers. Anyhow, here are some of the answers that I got from several males.

1) Rather wife to die first.
(may sound shocking at first, but it's actually quite a noble answer. If you think about it, sometimes after the husband's death, the family will run into chaos and the wife may not be able to handle everything by herself. By choosing this option, he will be saving her all the pain and sadness of losing a loved one, bringing it upon himself to take all the pain & to live alone for the remaining days. Sounds like the answer to come from a noble father or husband. But I'm not saying that this is the right answer, cause there is no right answer).

2) Rather die first, wife later
Three reasons:
- Guy knows that he himself will be greatly affected by the death of a loved one and might not be able to handle it. (Reasonable) (But the presence of a young child may give him the strength to carry on. ahhh.... next issue.)
- Guy cannot let wife die first and if she lives, maybe life can still go on.
- Either one dies, the family will still go into chaos, so it doesn't matter.

But of course, all the above is valid, esp. (1), only if the guy is the head of the house. If the women is the head of the house, or if she's stronger than the male, then some reasons would not stand. So, it still depends on the individual.

Anyhow, I think losing someone whom has been a part of ur life for so long is horrible. Imagine that the person who's sleeping on the other half of the bed with you, for fifty years, is gone for good. My goodness, Saddening thought.

As for my answer to a female equivalent of this "would you rather.." question (as requested), I think at this point of time, I would choose to be the one to leave later. But condition #1 is, No sudden shocking deaths for both, itz too much for me to take. You'll feel like you've been robbed of something, suddenly, seriously. My reason for this answer is, even after experiencing the deaths of many beloved pets, I still wanna accompany my loved ones to the end of the journey. I wanna be there with them, to go through it together, even if it brings me horrible pain. Cause I think it's nice having your beloved ones around you. For e.g. some people die with their closest family members surrounding them.

Another reason would be that I don't wanna just leave everything behind and not seeing how the lives of my loved one passing by. Also quite sad right, imagine leaving the other person behind, alone. Whether I can handle the pain or not depends on the situation. As mentioned by one before, children and family can help give you the strength to carry on. So it's either that or... maybe now we know the reason why some elderly people pass away shortly after their partners.

Ok time to stop. Lim ever said talking about death of loved ones is a bit of a taboo. Well I think itz a bit sad when you think about such stuff or discuss about it, as a few of us did in the wee hours of the morning.

But yeah, people close to me would find such topics and others of controversy (like abortion, religion, life, friendship, relationships) not of a suprise. As for the rest, try to get used to it.